“We usually don't realize the
thing that is defining our identity until that thing is taken away.” Tim
Hiller
All human attachments are the raw
materials with which one both consciously and subconsciously creates one’s
identity through a period of confusion and uncertainty that inevitably leads to
the identity crisis. Without human attachment, there will be no identity
crisis.
Attachment is no more than a
safety blanket to overcome fear—fear of change and of the unknown from that
change. To cope with that fear, all attachments become distractions.
Attachment is basically your
emotional dependence on things and people that define your identity, around
which you wrap your so called “happiness” and even your survival. Attachment is
holding on to anything that you are unwilling to let go of, whether
it is something positive or negative.
We are living in a world with many problems that confront us in our
everyday life, and many of these are not only unavoidable but also insoluble.
To overcome these daily challenges, many of us just turn to attachment as a
means of distracting ourselves from facing our problems head on, or adapting
and changing ourselves in an ever-changing environment. All of our struggles in
life, from anxiety to frustrations, from anger to sadness, from grief to
worry—they all stem from the same thing: our attachment to how we want
things to be, rather than relaxing into accepting and embracing whatever that
might happen after we have put forth our best effort.
Let go of your attachments to avoid any identity crisis in order to live as if everything is a miracle.
Stephen
Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau
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